She told you not to wait for her because she is not ready for a relationship and she probably does not like you or she already has someone else.
If she doesn’t like you and you approach her, she would not tell you directly that she doesn’t like you, what she will do is she will tell you that you should not wait for her.
If you tell her that you will wait for her till she is ready, she will tell you that you should not bother waiting for her.
You should be able to read the signals and know when she doesn’t like you. In this article, I will show you the various reasons why she told you not to wait for her and what you can do about it.
What Could Be The Reason(S)
- She is in a relationship
- She does not find you attractive
- She is not ready for a relationship
- She has not healed from a past hurt
- She has no interest in you
- You were not articulate about what you want
- She is interested but not ready emotionally
- She does not want to hurt you by saying no, she wants you to figure it out yourself
She is in a relationship
This is one reason why she told you to not wait for her. She is in a relationship and she does not want to make her current boyfriend feel bad. She understands that you may not be aware that she is in a relationship and that may be the reason why you asked her out.
She may not tell you directly that she is in a relationship, she will rather tell you that you should not wait for her. That response could mean that she is in a relationship, but she does not want to tell you directly.
As a guy, if you tell a girl that you are interested in her and she tells you to not wait for her, then you should know that it is possible she is in a relationship but she does not want to tell you directly.
She does not find you attractive
This is what it simply means, she does not find you attractive and she does not see you as someone that she would like to go into a relationship. When a girl does not find a guy attractive, she means you are not right for her or that you are not the perfect person for her.
She could talk to you or be friends with you, but she does not find you attractive. You should be able to get this signal if a girl gives it to you, you may not need to say it out, but from her reply and probably her silence, you should be able to get the message.
If she does not find you attractive, you should not feel bad about it, understand what you need to work on and things that you need to improve on, some other girl could find you attractive if you put in the work to become a better person.
She is not ready for a relationship
Some ladies prefer to have some major accomplishments in life before they get into relationships.
That may be the same situation that the girl is in, she may be at a point in her life where she is working on another degree or she is working on a project and she may not need any distraction.
If she is not ready for a relationship, she may not tell you directly, what she will do is tell you to not wait for her. That way, you should be able to get the message. You should see the signs already and act accordingly.
She has not healed from a past hurt
It is possible that she has experienced some hurt in the past and she has not healed from it yet. When a girl has not healed from a past hurt, she will find it difficult to go into a new relationship till she has healed from her past.
If you ask her out during the healing process, you may not get a positive response from her till she has healed, that is why she will tell you to not wait for her.
She believes that for her to be mentally ready for a new relationship, she has to be in a good state of mind, that is why she needs to heal before going into a new relationship.
Allow her to heal from her past and you may get a positive reply, if you approach her when she is healing, she will tell you to not wait for her, and you know what that means already.
She has no interest in you
That is the simple meaning, she is not interested in you. If a girl is not interested in you, you will get the message because she would not give you as much attention.
If she tells you to not wait for her, know that she is not interested in you and she does not want to tell it you directly.
She does not want to hurt you by telling you that she is not interested, she may try to seem nice and tell you that you should not wait for her. The moment you hear her say this, you should get the sign that she is not interested in you.
Even though she may not say it directly to you, you should see the signs that she is not interested. Someone who is visually impaired will be able to see the signs that the lady is not interested in.
You were not articulate about what you want
Girls love it when the guy that approaches them is articulate and states exactly what he wants when he talks to them. If you tell her how you feel about her and you are not articulate, she may feel that you are not confident enough to let her know how you feel about her.
Once she notices this, she may sense that you are not man enough, and she will give you a negative feedback by telling you that you should wait for her.
She may have told you to wait for her, but in the real sense, she does not want to have anything to do with you because she senses that you are not man enough.
She is interested but not ready emotionally
If she told you that you should not wait for her, then you should know that could be interested in you but she is not ready emotionally. Someone that is not ready emotionally has most likely been in a toxic relationship in the past and she is finding it hard to find love in a new relationship.
400;”>This means that she is not ready emotionally and she needs you to give her some time to figure things out and also get ready for a new relationship.
When someone just got out of a past relationship, the person would need some time to think things through and also emotionally get ready for a new relationship.
She does not want to hurt you by saying no, she wants you to figure it out yourself
This is another reason why she told you to not wait for her, her answer is no, but because she doesn’t want you to feel bad or get hurt because you rejected her, she will say that you should not wait for her. In the real sense, she wants you to figure it out yourself that she is not interested.
You should also be able to notice these signs when she shows them, once you see the signs, act accordingly. Once you figure it out, you should not feel bad about it, sometimes it is a good thing when someone comes out plain to tell you how they feel.
What You Should Do
If a girl tells you to not wait for her you should do exactly that, do not wait for her, that is just her way of telling you that she is not interested, probably because she has someone else or she is not ready for a relationship.
In this segment of this article, I will share four things you can do if she told you not to wait for her.
- Ask her why
- Do not wait for her
- Find out why she said no and improve on yourself
- Move on, find another interested person
Ask her why
When someone says something that you do not understand, the ideal thing to do is to ask. The same thing is applicable here, if she tells you that you should not wait for her and you are not sure of the reason why she said that, then the ideal thing to do is to ask her why.
When you ask her why she will tell you the reason why she said that. It is best to ask so that you will have to assume or overthink it. Also, if she doesn’t like you back or does not want to be in a relationship with you, she would tell you in her reply.
Do not wait for her
Yes, do not wait for her if you are sure that she told you to not wait for her because she does not want to have anything to do with you or she does not find you attractive.
If she said you should not wait for her he most likely meant it, do not waste time trying to convince her to be with you, you may just be making it difficult for yourself. If she doesn’t like you, being persistent does not change anything most times.
In your reply, tell her that you are not going to wait for her just as she told you to. With a reply like this, she will understand that you got the message clearly and even if you did not state that you do not want to be in a relationship with him, he already gets the message.
Find out why she said no and improve on yourself
Use this reply if you know that you still have a lot of work to do on yourself, that is more reason why she must have rejected you. Most times, ladies do not want to be in relationships where the guy has done little work on himself.
Find out why she said not and ensure that you improve yourself. The moment you can work on yourself and become a better person, you will see that you will start to attract new friends to yourself and even more girls who would not reject you.
Move on, find another interested person
This is an ideal thing to do as well if you notice that she is giving off signs that she does not want to be with you after telling you not to wait for her. It is best if you move on, and become a better person then you will be able to find another person that will be interested in you.
It may hurt when someone rejects you, but it is always good that you look at it from the brighter side, some people would not tell you upfront that they do not want to be with you, and some will go as far as flirting and they will end up wasting your time.
Final Words
As a guy, you should be able to read signs when a girl gives them to you, most especially if she tells you that you should not wait for her, it means that she wants you to move on with your life and not wait for her.
She most likely has someone else that she is in a relationship with or she does not want to be in a relationship with.
I have shared various things you can do if a girl tells you not to wait for her, you can either ask her why or you can choose to learn from it and move on.